I found that the more truthful and vulnerable I was, the more empowering it was for me. – Alanis Morissette
Are you truthful?
Would it surprise you to know that the more truthful you are, the stronger you become?
I used to believe that in order to get along with others, I had to be careful of how truthful I was. I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings or make them feel bad. Let me tell you, it was mentally exhausting. I retreated inside myself, like a turtle. It wasn't until I started being truthful with myself and then with others did I start to feel strength.
Now, I must tell you, I don't mean being truthful entitles you to be cruel and to bully others. Real truth is being honest and voicing your opinion. Here's an example:
A writer friend of mine asked me to read over his short story and give my honest opinion. Before agreeing I made it clear that I will look it over but I will not lie. If I think it is crap, I will have to be honest. He respected my integrity and I read his short story. This was my reply to him:
I really liked the premise of the short story. There were a few consistency issues but I made some notes for you. I think if you made a few changes, it will be a shoe-in.
See what I did there? I encouraged him while still being honest.
I love this quote by Alanis and the idea of being truthful and vulnerable leads to empowerment. What a novel thought. You don't think of truth as being powerful but it is. The more truthful you are, the more authentic you are.
MRS N